Stop nagging your husband!

Ask for what you want

Men can not read our minds. Often a wife may THINK she has asked for something, but she has not been specific.

• Tell him why it's important to you.
  
• Use "I" and "We" statements. Not "You" statements.
  
• Allow him to understand how the situation affects you.
  
• Share with him and explain what you feel you need help with.
  

• This is the opportunity to discuss the business of your life.
  
• Schedule dates for completion of projects that are realistic and agreed upon.
  
• Men are visual so having a list is helpful.
  
• The wife should not become the "list maker."
  

• Treat your relationship with the same respect you would your job, a co-worker or a friend.
  
• Remember you are speaking to a grown-up.
  
• The most important useful form of communication is conversation. This means you are talking to him not telling him.
  
• If what you are doing isn't working, don't get frustrated, just change it! Your relationship is an active work in progress.
  

• Typically when you are close to your partner he doesn't see you asking him to do something as nagging. When you aren't intimate with your mate he is more apt to feel distance from you and see your requests as "nagging him".
  
• It's rare for a man to use the word "nagging" when they are feeling positive and supported in their relationship.
  
• If females can't figure out how to get "action" and are being called "nags" it's a great opportunity to look at their entire relationship.
  

• When a mate states, "You are being a nag." He is attempting to tell you, "This isn't working for me."
  
• If a person dislikes conflict, he/she may just take on the chore because this is a comfortable pattern. This is when you hear a wife say, "It's just easier to do it myself instead of wait for him."
  
• This is your opportunity to listen.
  
• Allow him to have an opinion / timeline that will work for his schedule.
  
• A successful relationship requires 100% from each partner.
  

• Nagging is something a "mother" does.
  
• No one wants to have sex with their mother.
  
• No one feels "sexy" when she is in a "mother" role.
  
• Do not allow yourself to get caught in the trap of "mothering" your husband. It's unattractive.
  

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