Michigan mom buys coffee for donut shop bullies who called her fat

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Thursday, September 24, 2015
Mom buys coffee for donut shop bullies who called her fat
When a Michigan woman was confronted with bullies in a donut store, she knew just what to do: she killed them with kindness.

When a Michigan woman was confronted with bullies in a donut store, she knew just what to do: she killed them with kindness.

Dianne Hoffmeyer was waiting in line to get donut holes for her teething 22-month-old daughter when two middle-aged women walked into the store and began making comments about her weight and looks. She says they said, "Oh look at her hair, it's nasty looking and the roots are coming through. Oh she's a whale, the whale needs to eat."

For Hoffmeyer the insults stung. She recently lost 177 pounds. The women, complete strangers, were unaware of her previous weight.

"I instantly started to cry, because it hurts," she said. "I don't know the women. I don 't know why they would choose to say something like that."

But what she did next is what is surprising -- she told the cashier she'll pay for their coffee.

Hoffmeyer then turned around, walked out, and went to her car where she cried.

She says she wanted to set a better example for her children by paying it forward rather than the impulse of lashing out at the duo.

She posted her encounter on Facebook. It has since exploded worldwide.

Should she encounter the women again, or should they read this, she says, "I 'd like to buy them another cup of coffee, and talk to them. And explain to them how it made me feel."