- Make eye contact. When we look directly at someone, it's as if we could see inside the other. Don't stare, just look from eye to eye and then to the bridge of the nose. When you're flirting, bring that look down to the person's mouth and linger there. If you're sitting together in a restaurant and his eyes are following every woman who walks by instead of looking at you, chances are that dessert won't be too sweet.
- Mirror the other person. When he leans forward to talk to you, lean in towards him. When he leans back, pause for a minute, then do the same.
- Don't invade another's personal space - keep that foot and a half distance when you're first getting to know each other. Our comfort zone is farther apart here in the U.S. than in other parts of the world.
- Watch arms and hands. Open hand palms, uncrossed arms, and non-threatening touch communicate without the use of speech. If he's got your arms crossed over his chest while you're talking to him, then he's not very receptive to you. If he shrugs off your hand when you reach for his, it's a warning sign.
- Smile. It's the most important way to signal your openness. If you have stopped greeting each other with a smile and a hug, no words are necessary to know the closeness is gone.
Deborah King, J.D., author of Truth Heals: What You Hide Can Hurt You (Hay House 2009), is a health & wellness expert, frequent TV and radio commentator, attorney, national keynote speaker, a regular blogger for The Huffington Post and Psychology Today, and a "healer to the stars." She also hosts her own radio show, "Truth Heals with Deborah King." As a young attorney and hotel developer, Deborah suffered from a host of emotional and medical problems, culminating with cancer in her twenties. Her amazing recovery led her to leave the corporate arena for the alternative medical field, where she mastered ancient and modern healing systems and ultimately developed a powerful energy healing technique of her own. She is trained to address both the mind and the body's health and disease processes. Deborah makes frequent appearances on national news and entertainment programs, and is known for her insightful and entertaining commentary on the news of the day.
Deborah's Story: Deborah was a successful corporate attorney when she was diagnosed in her twenties with cancer that sent her on a search for truth that would radically change her life. Once she rooted out the lies that were the source of her problems, she left the corporate arena for the alternative medical field, where she mastered ancient and modern healing systems, ultimately developing a powerful technique of her own. Her new book, a national bestseller, is a juicy read all about celebs, the lies we tell and the damage they do. By learning about body language, we can improve our chances of getting and keeping the type of relationship we all seek.
Great example of a successful relationship is seen in the body language of a couple like long-time marrieds Kevin Bacon and Kyra Sedgwick.