Recently, one of Maureen Healy's colleagues had been observing other parents in the neighborhood "talking trash" in front of their children and Maureen had to think about it. She strongly believes in the power of positive talk to influence a child's healthy development.
And she knows firsthand how much negative talk or gossip and well-intentioned but wrong words can hurt. So she explored this topic and agreed that many parents without much forethought talk poorly about:
- Teachers at School
- Other Kids
- Family Members
- Authority Members (Priests, Rabbis, Neighbors)v
- Spouses
Positive Parents:
So we agreed that not gossiping about others is essential to positive parenting. It is actually a cornerstone of raising kids to care, feel compassion for others, and develop their own judgment, sound social skills and a true understanding of when it is skillful to speak.
Learning to use your speech and the power of your voice as sacred is an important lesson. It becomes even more important when you are raising a child to become a person of character, credibility, honesty and discernment so you can teach your child to look at others positively and through a skillful lens.
You see, gossip or "trash talk" teaches your child that:
- What you say doesn't matter
- Words don't have power
- Speaking behind someone's back is okay
- Your speech doesn't have consequences
- It's okay to spread rumors, insult or judge
Becoming a parent that is a role model of "right speech" is helpful in raising a child that develops an honest character and reputation that others can respect.
Boomerang Basics:
Buddhists call it karma. Kids understand the idea of a boomerang. What goes around comes around. It really is the law of cause and effect that helps most people curb their habit of gossiping. I mean no one on the planet wants to be gossiped about?
And if you gossip about others, say poor things or talk trash and be unkind - it's likely that exact experience will be returned to you sooner or later.
Wouldn't you want a boomerang of kindness, generosity and positive words to come your way? Then that as a parent is what you'll need to be growing, sending out your mouth and watch returned to you. And isn't now the best time to try it?
About Maureen Healy:
Maureen is is the author of "365 Perfect Things To Say To Your Kids" and the founder of www.growinghappykids.com
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