Dating tips for single parents

February 13, 2009 12:00:00 AM PST
Love is in the air and cupid is ready to give everyone a shot at romance. Listen up single parents, we've got dating tips for you! Rachel Sara, author of "Single Mom Seeking" and blogger of, explains how you can add some sizzle with three easy steps.

Tips for single moms:

1) Break the rules: Rather than waiting to find "Mr. Right," take charge. Ask a man out. It's okay to be non-traditional. (I asked my postman out last Valentine's Day!)

2) Put yourself online: What a better way to celebrate Valentine's Day than to give yourself the gift of getting back out there? Remember, however, that you're going online because you're ready - not because you're lonely or desperate.

3) Realize that you are loved: Even if you're not in a relationship right now, look around and see how you're loved in many ways. Appreciate the love between you and your child. Feel grateful for your friends and family.

You can read more about Rachel at and

Event: "Single Parents Night"
Feb. 13, 4pm
SadieDey's Cafe
4210 Telegraph Ave.
Oakland, CA

Come at 4 p.m. for cookies and crafts for the kids. Rachel will be there at 6 p.m. for "adult conversation" and coffee.

If You're a Single Parent With Dating Questions, participate in the Childhood Matters call-in radio show on Valentine's Day! Please call into San Francisco Bay Area's talk show: Green 960-AM on Saturday from 9:00 to 10:00 AM. Join the discussion at 877-372-KIDS You can also listen online LIVE here. No doubt, the show will be REAL! With Rona Renner, RN, and Dr. Joshua Coleman, Ph.D., a relationship expert.

You can learn more and listen to past shows at www.Childhood Matters.

About Rachel Sara:
When my daughter was 7 months old, her father and I split up. He left the country without saying goodbye, I might add to start a new life. I was hormonal and heartbroken, living in Washington Heights. In between work hours spent editing textbooks, I nursed my baby and mashed up bananas. That first year was chaos. It didn't help that there were no single-mom role models in my life - except, say, Madonna, who was also parenting solo at the time. If she can do it, I can, I used to think, but I hardly had a superstar's life.Fortunately, I had a fantastic group of friends in NYC who helped. Maybe none of them knew exactly what I was going through, but they babysat and showered little Mae with love, which I appreciate to this day.In 2002, I moved back to the San Francisco Bay Area, where I grew up. I feel incredibly blessed have founded this blog, which has grown into the No. 1 blog for single parents on the web.