WHAT TO DO IF YOU FIND TIME FOR YOURSELF
DR. LISSA RANKIN'S ADVICE
- Think One Week At A Time:
God didn't create a world in one day and neither can women, though God knows we try! It's hard to have a balanced day when you're trying to do it all, but it's entirely possible to have a balanced week.
On my website and at the Owning Pink Center where I practice, we encourage you to own all the facets of what makes you whole: your creativity, your spirituality, your sexuality, your health, your relationships, your success, the planet and YOU. But it's hard to nurture all those pieces of your wholeness every day.
If you find yourself with extra time during the day, trying mixing it up. On Monday, express yourself creatively. On Tuesday, spend time in prayer or meditation.
On Wednesday, have rockin' sex. On Thursday, take a hike and cook an organic healthy meal. On Friday, donate your time to a charity and give back to the world.
Be realistic and compassionate with your to-do list. You can't expect yourself to have time every day to meditate, get exercise, eat well, be a loving partner and fabulous parent, succeed in business, have mind-blowing sex, and express yourself creatively.
So give yourself permission to let things go, but if you find yourself with extra time, mix it up. Just make sure you're not skipping the same things every day.
- I'd Risk It All:
Life's too short not to take risks. 4 years ago, I was miserable in my life, but I was comfortable. With my full time OB/GYN medical practice and the fancy six figure income that comes with it, it was terrifying to consider giving it up to find joy.
But life's too short not to take risks. So I quit my job, moved to the country, wrote a book, painted and ultimately realized that you can quit your job but you can't quit your calling, which lead me to open my own practice in a whole new way.
At Owning Pink, we call it taking a "Pleap," as in "Pink leap of faith." When you're pleaping, you still feel the fear but you're no longer allowing the fear to rule your decision making. So make time to take risks, whether you're quitting your job, going pole-dancing, sky diving, or asking out the cute guy at work.
CHRISTINE ARYLO'S ADIVCE
- Remember That Girls Just Want To Have Fun
More often, I would love to ask the Little Girl inside of me What She Would Like to Do. The world is her playground, and the world is there to serve her. She has no concept of 'having time' or responsibility to others.
It's like being 7 years old again and being released onto the playground -- do I want the see saw, the jungle gym? For me that is what I call 'Narnia Time' and today it might be called Harry Potter time. When I was little I LOVED to read the Narnia books like the Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe and transport myself to that magical land.
I would get lost in those books for hours. So now I will find a fiction book, no self help or business books, with a great story I can just fall into, or I'll rent one of my magic movies, like Harry Potter or Narnia. and go back to that magical place.
- Remember That Women Like To Be Wined And Dined...Take Me Out On A Date
I learned a long time ago that I don't need a man in order to go on a date. I can take myself out on a date anytime I like. The problem is that usually I forget to ask! But on those occassions when I find myself with time, I will ask myself, "Christine, it's me and you, the world is your oyster, what do you want to do?"
I was recently in NYC on a business trip, and I purposely booked my trip home at 4 p.m. instead of 11 a.m. so that I could have the entire morning and early afternoon for me, which was a big step for me, a recovering doing addict who has realized that you can't make time for yourself, you have got to take it for yourself.
So when I awoke that morning and asked the question, "The Big Apple is your oyster today Christine, what do you want to do? She said, sleep in late, go see beautiful art and get inspired, and go for a long walk in the park." We got up at 10:00 a.m., sauntered over to the Metropolitan Museum of Art and then walked 30 blocks through Central Park." It was a great date!
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