Get your kids to do their chores

October 23, 2007 12:00:00 AM PDT
Get your kids to do more around the house. Find out how to make chores fun, instead of a hassle.

Here are some simple tips to remember when trying to get your kids to help out around the house, feel a sense of responsibility, and motivate them without a huge hassle. It can be fun to clean the house together.

Keep in mind:

  1. Start young
  2. Demonstrate how to do task
  3. Work together
  4. Rotate tasks by making a game of who does what.
  5. Praise efforts


  • Speak respectfully, even if your child is angry.
  • Apologize when you use an inappropriate tone.
  • Acknowledge the feelings behind what they're saying, before correcting the tone "I see your upset, but I can't listen to you when you're screaming."
  • Coach younger children to express feelings "You can say you're angry, but you can't call me names."
  • Insist that children change a disrespectful tone or you won't be able to respond.
  • Sometimes children are angry, work on the relationship in addition to the words.
  • About Susie Kohl:
    She is the author of five parenting books, numerous articles; regular parenting columnist for Diablo magazine; college instructor and consultant for human development; director at The White Pony School. Her book is The Best Things Parents Do published in 2004 by Conari Press. She has consulted with parents for over thirty years and tries to stress what parents do right. She also emphasizes how much better parents are doing in this generation.

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