SF man seen in viral road rage video says looks are deceiving, woman didn't spit on his face

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Tuesday, July 21, 2020
Viral road rage video is more than meets the eye, SF man says
ABC7 spoke to a man who was involved in a caught-on-camera road rage incident that he says looks deceiving.

SAN FRANCISCO (KGO) -- There's more than meets the eye when it comes to a caught-on-camera moment in San Francisco involving a couple who appears to be white in a sedan and a Black man in silver Mercedes in a heated argument.

The viral video was taken by a Latina woman who doesn't want to reveal her name, at the corner of Bay and Stockton Streets late Sunday morning.

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While the video is taken from an apartment window that accounts for muffled audio, it's clear the woman is yelling at the man at close range with no mask on.

The man responds at one point "get out of my face, expletive!"

The woman, even appearing to many online observers to "spit" in the man's face. Some thinking he spat at her as well.

Before we get any further, it's no secret these caught-on-camera incidents have dominated the news lately. Incidents involving people, caught on camera behaving poorly and often in racist-fueled ways. For example, the former HR executive, seen asking an Asian American family to "go back to your country" or the white man seen on camera blocking a Latino biopharmaceutical educator from entering his own building.

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But in this case, looks can be deceiving.

"She did not spit on me. It may look that way, trust me, if she had spit on me it would have been a whole different ballgame!" says Carlton, the Black man in the silver Mercedes. He is choosing not to use his last name. Carlton continues to say, "it was more of a cough than spit."

He says the couple in the other car was tailgating him and at the stop sign got out. But despite hearing the woman accuse him of not being able to afford his car, didn't interpret the comment as blatant racism and believes the barrage of comments from social media doesn't accurately depict what happened.

"I'll make one thing clear she never said the N-word, she never said anything racial, slur anything to me and I never did either," said Carlton.

While Carlton admits he was in the wrong for aggressively responding.

"I hold myself responsible for not defusing the situation which is what I should have done. I was just as guilty as she was," said Carlton.

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He says he didn't spit at the woman either and he also doesn't want the woman to suffer the consequences others in similar videos have.

"I don't want to see nobody get fired," said Carlton.

For both Carlton and the woman who recorded the incident this experience is about accountability and keeping a record, just in case.

"If the cops show up who's going to get in trouble?" says the Latina woman. "I think folks with more privilege need to hold more space and grace for marginalized folks, especially for Black folks during a time of racial re-traumatization."

Carlton has this message for other people of color who may one day be in the same uncomfortable situation.

"Just think before you act, because, trust me. Especially in this day in time, you don't know who is taping," said Carlton.